This is very true, Lesley. But the mind and ego deeply feel loss the loss of cherished attachments formed in this world. We must remember that these attachments are the ropes that keep our Soul tied to realities of physical existence below the eye center. Otherwise, the Soul would fly upwards to the spiritual skies pronto. Every day I think of those things which I have bonded with in the world…people, places and things. I now see them as definite hindrances to my own ascent and the memory of these cause pain to my innermost Essence, which is anxious to merge with the Divine Essence above. It is not my duty to sever these attachments myself, only to recognize them and lovingly offer them to the all-powerful and all-knowing Sat Guru. He Alone knows my script, timetable and station in consciousness. Many blessings, Al
So true, Al. During this time as I adjust to my mother’s passing, the mind wants to focus on what it no longer has, but when I come into the loving presence of the Beloved’s aura, I am struck by the fact that she is there, in that aura. The love that I miss is there, but without the challenges that the material world imposes on love. That is the source of this post.
So beautifully stated Al! Anything that we identify with short of our Divine essence and the Supreme essence needs to be righted. I lovingly offer my attachment to my role of being a “good mom” and my attachment to my daughter’s well being to the all-powerful and all-knowing Sat Guru. He alone knows everything. He alone can keep me in perfect peace. Love and blessings, J
I am not one who freely interact on the internet. But reading your comment Al, it hit home so hard, I started crying. Thank you Leslie, for this very apt title ‘Open to Love’ that eventuate to Al’s comment. The click of the mouse was not by accident.
I guess I have been holding up trying to be a protector to my son (he is 15 years old). I am a single mother. There is no fault in our relationship just that right this moment I am going through events going against the simple grain of our very impromptu plan to get him over to the US for his further education. The specific physical problem of getting my visa application stuck whilst my son has already gotten his. One just cannot beat a non-human computer system. We live in Malaysia and the application for visa to the US is quite a complicated process. And I have very limited time to spare ie, school registration in the US starts 29 August 2013.
I guess I already have my answers. By the way, my son is into music (more towards Rock) and is crazy over his electric guitar playing. He just formed a band with his schoolmates (3 guitarists and 1 drummer) and are trying to write their own songs. I can see he is reluctant to leave this band due to his eventual US studies and leaving his friends too. He will be majoring in ‘Creative Writing’ (was how I got to know Leslie’s blog). We are not too keen in ‘academic’ achievements. I just want him to have the exposure for his ‘growth’. The meaning of MOTHER don’t change, does it?
Maybe the onset that I am going to miss him dreadfully is amplifying every little friction that I am facing.
Thank you Al and Leslie…. I needed a place to rant..
Thank you, Christine. Your comment aligned exactly with my morning contemplation. We cannot deny the pain caused by letting go, but when we attach to the Beloved, the love of our true self, we allow the people, places and things surrounding us to have a fuller experience, and most importantly, we free our soul from the illusory chains of the physical and emotional world.
I left home at age 15 for the sake of my education, and though I still had lots of contact with my family, I was free to learn at a level unavailable to me near home. My consciousness expanded greatly during that time.
It sounds as though you are walking through this beautifully as you continue to let go and let God.
My dear ones.. my heart is singing this moment.. yay yay! everything is good to go.. it is humbling..
my message to my son “R E L I E F does not even come near … Shaun… am so so so glad that the appointment interview just plop out 20 August – Time 8.50 am – I was like.. is this real?? better check the date with Calendar.. quick.. it states one spot only.. its like God himself/herself/itself/wholeself.., says.. go on click it .. its yours.. ”
Loss truly is an illusion, Rudy. I am just glimpsing this. When I wrote the phrase in my journal I spent days asking, “Really? Could that be true?” And I kept receiving a resounding “Yes.” I have yet to realize this, but am just noting sparks of it in my inner, so I know it is on its way to a more complete realization.
Hi Lesley. I just heard from a key team member at our company that she is taking another job, and concurrently, I am going through a lot with my daughter to the point that I often feel like I am losing her. But the thought of never losing anything or anyone and simply opening to more love, redirects me powerfully. In these moments of perceived loss we have only one choice and that is to surrender to Him more absolutely. With such an inspired act, we are inviting greater love into our lives, invoking greater reliance on the only true source of love and security, and switching our allegiance from the unreal to the Real. I marvel at the timeliness of this short, sweet, yet powerful message. Thank you!
Jamie, what you wrote about surrender is worth repeating, many times: “…we are inviting greater love into our lives, invoking greater reliance on the only true source of love and security, and switching our allegiance from the unreal to the Real.
That expands upon the glimmer of truth that came to me through this post. It sounds as though the illusion of “motherly love” is on your chopping block, just as is the love for my mother. How wonderful that we get to know that these beings who share our lives are not really mothers or daughters at all, but souls through whom we learn how to love and how to surrender.
Beautifully said, Al. What’s most beautiful about this process is the way that the things that leave really do drop away of their own weight. By the time they go, if I am honest with myself, I am really ready to have them do so, and to have that “space” filled with a truer love.
And honesty, Lesley, is mandatory. Our real attachments…those that we habitually rationalize away with the mind…will most definitely be spotlighted at some point in our journey. We can have no crutch but Guru. Let’s exercise patience with our many deficiencies while, at the dame time, continue to surrender all to our wonderful Emancipater/Liberator and Savior.
“We can have no crutch but Guru.” So true, Al! I am shortchanging myself when I look elsewhere. I need to start exercising patience with my shortcomings as you suggest and allow His love to wash over, so I can be restored.
Jamie
on August 1, 2013 at 2:19 pm
Thanks Lesley. The illusion of “motherly love” has been on the chopping block for some time now. There is imminent chopping! 😉 I do see that all that is going on is bringing me to my knees and into His arms. It is a gift! I am ready to move beyond tears and start smiling again.
I’m reminded of the poem by Hafiz that so took me by suprise many years ago, but has since begun to make sense. “Don’t surrender your lonliness so quickly. Let it cut more deep…” The idea that lonliness is a sweet tool is so far from our mind’s understanding that it can sound absurd, but once in the thick of the journey, we can see that only in the middle of lonliness can we start to see the illusion that it is — it opens us up for more love, as Lesley’s post describes. And it is the type of Love that penetrates deeply toward the only Friend any of us will ever have. The whole concept is a stark but kind awareness.
Rudy, that Hafiz poem has always stayed with me. It is powerful! I think I have tried to hold things together for so long. And I’m just starting to realize how truly helpless I am and how much I need the Beloved. In that realization, I am comforted by Rumi’s words “Only the supremely brave ever admit How helpless they are in the hands of God! As for the others, building and decorating their sandcastles –
Look how one wild wave shatters them all.” I think the Master has me right where He wants me, where I have a chance to know true love. Many blessings.
Losing a loved one is so hard. It helps to share your feelings. It helps a person focus on the good times rather than the feeling of loss. Everyone be kind to one another so you can share the love your lost one left you.
Tonya, thank you for joining in the conversation. I know you do hospice work, something I value greatly. Hospice is so good about, as Rudy mentioned, “Letting it cut more deeply…” In honor of this, I sat with a hospice counselor the other day and cried for an hour. That night I slept my first full night in weeks and felt wonderful the next day. Honoring the beauty of all experience is such a challenge and so rewarding in the end.
This is very true, Lesley. But the mind and ego deeply feel loss the loss of cherished attachments formed in this world. We must remember that these attachments are the ropes that keep our Soul tied to realities of physical existence below the eye center. Otherwise, the Soul would fly upwards to the spiritual skies pronto. Every day I think of those things which I have bonded with in the world…people, places and things. I now see them as definite hindrances to my own ascent and the memory of these cause pain to my innermost Essence, which is anxious to merge with the Divine Essence above. It is not my duty to sever these attachments myself, only to recognize them and lovingly offer them to the all-powerful and all-knowing Sat Guru. He Alone knows my script, timetable and station in consciousness. Many blessings, Al
So true, Al. During this time as I adjust to my mother’s passing, the mind wants to focus on what it no longer has, but when I come into the loving presence of the Beloved’s aura, I am struck by the fact that she is there, in that aura. The love that I miss is there, but without the challenges that the material world imposes on love. That is the source of this post.
So beautifully stated Al! Anything that we identify with short of our Divine essence and the Supreme essence needs to be righted. I lovingly offer my attachment to my role of being a “good mom” and my attachment to my daughter’s well being to the all-powerful and all-knowing Sat Guru. He alone knows everything. He alone can keep me in perfect peace. Love and blessings, J
I am not one who freely interact on the internet. But reading your comment Al, it hit home so hard, I started crying. Thank you Leslie, for this very apt title ‘Open to Love’ that eventuate to Al’s comment. The click of the mouse was not by accident.
I guess I have been holding up trying to be a protector to my son (he is 15 years old). I am a single mother. There is no fault in our relationship just that right this moment I am going through events going against the simple grain of our very impromptu plan to get him over to the US for his further education. The specific physical problem of getting my visa application stuck whilst my son has already gotten his. One just cannot beat a non-human computer system. We live in Malaysia and the application for visa to the US is quite a complicated process. And I have very limited time to spare ie, school registration in the US starts 29 August 2013.
I guess I already have my answers. By the way, my son is into music (more towards Rock) and is crazy over his electric guitar playing. He just formed a band with his schoolmates (3 guitarists and 1 drummer) and are trying to write their own songs. I can see he is reluctant to leave this band due to his eventual US studies and leaving his friends too. He will be majoring in ‘Creative Writing’ (was how I got to know Leslie’s blog). We are not too keen in ‘academic’ achievements. I just want him to have the exposure for his ‘growth’. The meaning of MOTHER don’t change, does it?
Maybe the onset that I am going to miss him dreadfully is amplifying every little friction that I am facing.
Thank you Al and Leslie…. I needed a place to rant..
Love, Christine
Thank you, Christine. Your comment aligned exactly with my morning contemplation. We cannot deny the pain caused by letting go, but when we attach to the Beloved, the love of our true self, we allow the people, places and things surrounding us to have a fuller experience, and most importantly, we free our soul from the illusory chains of the physical and emotional world.
I left home at age 15 for the sake of my education, and though I still had lots of contact with my family, I was free to learn at a level unavailable to me near home. My consciousness expanded greatly during that time.
It sounds as though you are walking through this beautifully as you continue to let go and let God.
Blessings, dear soul.
Good luck! Whatever happens, please consider it the Great Lord’s ordainment.
My dear ones.. my heart is singing this moment.. yay yay! everything is good to go.. it is humbling..
my message to my son “R E L I E F does not even come near … Shaun… am so so so glad that the appointment interview just plop out 20 August – Time 8.50 am – I was like.. is this real?? better check the date with Calendar.. quick.. it states one spot only.. its like God himself/herself/itself/wholeself.., says.. go on click it .. its yours.. ”
Thank you Leslie, Thank you Al…♥
Christine, I am so happy for your outcome. It is amazing what can happen when we let go.
Sweet broadening of the illusion of loss. Thank you!
Loss truly is an illusion, Rudy. I am just glimpsing this. When I wrote the phrase in my journal I spent days asking, “Really? Could that be true?” And I kept receiving a resounding “Yes.” I have yet to realize this, but am just noting sparks of it in my inner, so I know it is on its way to a more complete realization.
Hi Lesley. I just heard from a key team member at our company that she is taking another job, and concurrently, I am going through a lot with my daughter to the point that I often feel like I am losing her. But the thought of never losing anything or anyone and simply opening to more love, redirects me powerfully. In these moments of perceived loss we have only one choice and that is to surrender to Him more absolutely. With such an inspired act, we are inviting greater love into our lives, invoking greater reliance on the only true source of love and security, and switching our allegiance from the unreal to the Real. I marvel at the timeliness of this short, sweet, yet powerful message. Thank you!
A wonderful and true post. The vacuum of loss, on this Path, is always replenished with closer union with Guru. I celebrate loss.
Thanks Al! That’s what I truly want – a closer union with the Beloved. I will start celebrating. 🙂
Jamie, what you wrote about surrender is worth repeating, many times: “…we are inviting greater love into our lives, invoking greater reliance on the only true source of love and security, and switching our allegiance from the unreal to the Real.
That expands upon the glimmer of truth that came to me through this post. It sounds as though the illusion of “motherly love” is on your chopping block, just as is the love for my mother. How wonderful that we get to know that these beings who share our lives are not really mothers or daughters at all, but souls through whom we learn how to love and how to surrender.
Beautifully said, Al. What’s most beautiful about this process is the way that the things that leave really do drop away of their own weight. By the time they go, if I am honest with myself, I am really ready to have them do so, and to have that “space” filled with a truer love.
And honesty, Lesley, is mandatory. Our real attachments…those that we habitually rationalize away with the mind…will most definitely be spotlighted at some point in our journey. We can have no crutch but Guru. Let’s exercise patience with our many deficiencies while, at the dame time, continue to surrender all to our wonderful Emancipater/Liberator and Savior.
“We can have no crutch but Guru.” So true, Al! I am shortchanging myself when I look elsewhere. I need to start exercising patience with my shortcomings as you suggest and allow His love to wash over, so I can be restored.
Thanks Lesley. The illusion of “motherly love” has been on the chopping block for some time now. There is imminent chopping! 😉 I do see that all that is going on is bringing me to my knees and into His arms. It is a gift! I am ready to move beyond tears and start smiling again.
I’m reminded of the poem by Hafiz that so took me by suprise many years ago, but has since begun to make sense. “Don’t surrender your lonliness so quickly. Let it cut more deep…” The idea that lonliness is a sweet tool is so far from our mind’s understanding that it can sound absurd, but once in the thick of the journey, we can see that only in the middle of lonliness can we start to see the illusion that it is — it opens us up for more love, as Lesley’s post describes. And it is the type of Love that penetrates deeply toward the only Friend any of us will ever have. The whole concept is a stark but kind awareness.
Rudy, that Hafiz poem has always stayed with me. It is powerful! I think I have tried to hold things together for so long. And I’m just starting to realize how truly helpless I am and how much I need the Beloved. In that realization, I am comforted by Rumi’s words “Only the supremely brave ever admit How helpless they are in the hands of God! As for the others, building and decorating their sandcastles –
Look how one wild wave shatters them all.” I think the Master has me right where He wants me, where I have a chance to know true love. Many blessings.
Losing a loved one is so hard. It helps to share your feelings. It helps a person focus on the good times rather than the feeling of loss. Everyone be kind to one another so you can share the love your lost one left you.
Tonya, thank you for joining in the conversation. I know you do hospice work, something I value greatly. Hospice is so good about, as Rudy mentioned, “Letting it cut more deeply…” In honor of this, I sat with a hospice counselor the other day and cried for an hour. That night I slept my first full night in weeks and felt wonderful the next day. Honoring the beauty of all experience is such a challenge and so rewarding in the end.